John
Kinyon’s approach
to facilitating communication and resolving conflict
is centered in an internationally acclaimed model of
communication called Nonviolent
Communication (NVC),
developed over the past 40 years by Marshall Rosenberg,
Ph.D. NVC is being practiced and shared with powerful
and transformative results on 6 continents in over 40
countries around the world. The
Center
for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC)
is an international organization supporting the global
learning and utilization of this process. NVC is being
shared in all areas of human organization – families,
communities, schools, businesses, government, law firms,
prisons, urban gangs, healthcare and social training,
and law enforcement and militaries.
Stephen Covey, in his internationally respected work
on the habits of highly successful people, describes
three habits of interdependence. These habits
are to think win-win, seek first to understand then to
be understood, and synergize. John Kinyon’s approach
utilizes a specific methodology for implementing these
habits, especially in the heat of strong emotional reactions
and enemy images of a conflict situation. The approach
is simple yet transformative, grounded in concrete skills
and a specific methodology.
The core skill set at the heart of this method is to
translate expressions of judgment, blame, criticism,
and demand, which tend to stimulate defensiveness and
counterattack, into the underlying human needs (e.g.
freedom, respect, honesty, safety, trust) being expressed
by the judgments. For example, “you’re so inconsiderate” could
be translated into a need for consideration; or “you’re
not a team player” could be expressed as a need
for support or teamwork. Translating judgments into needs
more clearly communicates the desired information and
shifts the interaction to a more effective and less costly
way of motivating others. Connecting at this level also
generates a natural compassion between people and opens
new possibilities for powerful action and breakthrough
solutions and results.
For more information visit the
websites www.nonviolentcommunication.com and www.cnvc.org.
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